With more than 30 million users, Adult FriendFinder is the Web's No. 1 meat market. But what kinds of kinksters actually use the site? Radar signed up to find out

Hey, I met my wife via AFF four years ago.

And she shares her girlfriends with me...

:) :)

Democrats charged with hate crime for scrawling KKK on car

http://www2.tbo.com/content/2008/oct/18/owner-believes-lexus-vandalized-due-mccain-sticker/

Best Radar article ever, btw. Whomever Teddy Wayne really is, hats off.

i'm sure a lot of the visits are legitimate, but most sites that let you watch bootlegged tv online redirect to aff at the beginning of every show. i have to 'visit' the site multiple times a day just to watch house or gossip girl or entourage.

hmm, maybe i need some adult friends that aren't 2-d?

Hi, I am a non-paying member of Adultfriendfinder and have been on the site since 2005. I met my current partner there as well as many good friends. I do not swing and I do not intend to. For me, the thing that keeps me on the site is the blogging.

Adultfriendfinder has an amazing blog section which is free and accessible to all. The downside is that because it is accessed via the site, there is still a social 'stigma' attached to it. Yes, the photos are pretty raunchy but, if you can get past them, the blogging is inspired. Not just amateur erotica, all sorts of topics are covered. Me, I write about my daily life there, the ups and downs, usually with humour. Here in the UK, I have attended four 'meet and greets' - not, as you might imagine, orgies. More like youth club outings, to be honest, with like minded people who are possibly less inhibited about sex than most, that's all.

I recommend the site, not for the sex - for the blogging!!

I'm not sure how the author would know that most of the men on AFF are subliterate. I spoke to a highly successful architect last night for an hour, and we spoke mostly about art, the economy, and Greenwashing. I've met a Washington Cabinet member who remains a good friend; at least three Sr. VPs of Fortune 100 companies; more med-size CEOs than I can count; and a GREAT cast of characters. Let's see on Sat. a young Dr. at Mt. Sinai; a hedge fund guy -- these are people I've gone out with -- an attorney.

I don't swing either. I'm just like your ad exec woman . . . a sexy babe with a high libido, also NOT looking for a one-night stand. AFF isn't a pretty place. I've spoken with their new owners, trying to convince them to make AFF more woman-friendly but I will lose the argument in this economy. Having heard directly from 5000 men on AFF and indirectly (winks, invites) from another 6000 . . . don't call the men of AFF subliterate. I've read more profiles than the author -- very carefully -- and I say that AFF has the best guys on the Internet. You can't use the word sex at Yahoo. Besides the new upstarts, AFF is the only place that one can openly discuss sexuality and libido. I find it to be a very human place, even though I, too, would like the terrain not to be so hard on the eyes. All in all . . . I'd give the author's AFF assessment a C- for a reality check on the real AFF. And no, I don't work for them. I'm a very successful, corporate woman who can't be her true self in today's world.